Marriage Is Wonderful...

but the grown-up stuff is making me rip my hair out!!

I'm not sure where to start... So we're driving to our honeymoon, and not 40 minutes into the drive a piece of tire flies up and busts a hole right into my bumper. The honeymoon was wonderful by the way.. but after that week, the hair-ripping continues:

First of all, most days at work are pretty full and busy with no breaks and kind of stressful to begin with. In the evenings we've been working and tiring ourselves out pretty hard tackling the piles of stuff at our apartment (because I don't really want to keep living out of a suitcase). Then there's that car wreck I need to take to the shop sometime soon.

Earlier this week I had all the insurance stuff I had to take care of but can't do payroll changes until I change my name (which when I went to the courthouse today found that I can't do without a TN license, so do I get a TN license with Correnti on it so I can take that to get my name changed so I can go back to get Meek on it??!) Anyway I did the insurance stuff, to be reminded how incredibly expensive! it is to add a spouse for medical (like almost $500/month more just to add 1 healthy person!!), so I kept my policy just for me, put us both on dental & vision and I tried to look up some providers for Jon to get his own medical coverage, and I had to put my phone # in to get quotes and now I get like 5 spam calls a day about health insurance!

I was at the courthouse again today with the name change stuff learning I had to get my license first, and go to the social security place first. I'd already been to court this week for my previous accident I had a month ago.

I am about to lift Hamilton County Courthouse and throw it out the window!! I wish people would tell me what exactly I need in order to accomplish things and in what order I need to accomplish them so I don't have to keep going back and forth 10 times over and over. I've never done this before, it'd be nice if people told me the right things to do when I ask them. When I did the tag and title stuff I got at least 3 different lists of required items needed for doing things. Ridiculous!!

When do the fun newlywed days start? Or have those already gone by...Do we only get a week?

Anyway, sorry - you were probably expecting a puppies-and-bunnies-frolicking-with-my-new-husband-in-euphoria type of entry following our wonderful marriage. But all this stuff happened and the best way for me to feel better about it is to write about it and see the words in front of me that make me angry. It helped.

I'll write about better days later.

Thank you Jonathan for making tasty dinners 2 nights in a row and for being your wonderful self who helps to keep me calm and sane during the cruddies :)

There's A Snail On My Window.

It must have washed up in the rain and got scared to go anywhere else. That's probably how snails get very far anyway. I used to have a golden snail. It wasn't really gold, but more yellow-shelled, and it's breed or whatever was something with "gold" and "Incan" in it. I mainly bought it (for like $3) just because I liked the name.

It died.
I kept the shell.

This one on my window has a translucent shell, which is kind of gross. It's like having your squishy body covered by a clear body-shaped fingernail.. and THAT sounds like sci fi!

the end.

My Friends:

I am bummed that the majority of my really close friends aren't able to make it to our wedding. These are people I'd become really close to, shared hilarious memories with and who've seen me grow through many stages of my life (if only during a short 4 years in college or so), and I really wish it were possible to share this next momentous stage of my life with them. I keep thinking of them and seeing their faces and wondering when the next time I'll see them would ever be, since my previous hope would have been to see them at the wedding. The celebration would seem a hair incomplete without them!

I knew this would be a problem the moment we decided to have the wedding in Chattanooga. But, I decided that it was very important to me to have it here because I wanted to welcome my friends and family into the environment in which my new life will be happening, and to meet all the amazing people I know here who will be such a big part of my life now. I thought the idea of them making a special travel for it would be fun, and maybe something they could also get a mini vacation out of. I still feel this way and I'm happy with our location choice, with the exception of missing those great friends I will not see.

Some people I've talked to tell me, "Oh, you won't even notice that I wasn't there"... um yes I will. Not sure what kind of other brides they're accustomed to, ha.. but I actually care very much about my guests. And you know what.. even though I've spent probably over $2,000 on things for this wedding so far, I would consider donating some funding just to have these people there, who have the schedule to be able to do so at least.

Take that into account, you people whom I may miss for too long!